Staying Healthy

Coping with Distancing and Isolation

On April 12th we had the pleasure of listening to John Asuncion from Counseling Right Now share his thoughts on "Coping with Social Distancing and the Effects of Prolonged Isolation."

John has shared his sermon with us and it can be found by clicking the link below.

Below is a summary of his 12 Strategies that he shared at the end.  Download them, place them on your refrigerator, or on your bathroom mirror.  May you be well.

ICE Contact (app)

ICE Contact is a free personal safety app that delivers instant & delayed messages to friends & family In Case of Emergency (ICE).  If you have a smart phone, here’s something easy, important, and FREE you can/should do today, to protect yourself. FIRST - add the ICE (basic) app to your phone. The icon/tile looks like a six-prong red/white cross. NEXT - input your emergency contact info, health conditions, medications/allergies and health insurance information. LAST, tell your family/close friends about this and encourage them to do the same. Having this critical personal health information available may be priceless to you or your family, or emergency responders someday.

ICE Contact - FREE Safety App is available free on the App Store and on Google Play.

NYS Covid App

I just test drove this NYS Covid app for tracing people.  It is intuitive and slick.  And, they did it supposedly without losing our health privacy.


If you are near a person for 10 minutes or more who turns out to have Covid-19, you will get a notification.

You can download the app to your cell phone per this USA Today article by clicking here.


For more information go to:  Help keep your fellow NYers safe from COVID-19 by flattening the curve. Get the COVID Alert NY app:


Keep safe. Best, Jeff

Zoom Tai Chi / Qi Gong Classes

Many UUFPers are enjoying the Zoom Tai Chi / Qi Gong classes that Anne Lancellotti and Georgette Weir are offering now, on Tuesdays and Thursdays. See details in the April 14 edition of our weekly Blast:

Since not everyone can attend the Tue/Thur classes, Anne has suggested using the info/link in the article below, to free lessons she recommends. Give this graceful low impact exercise a try!  Free Tai Chi Classes

Other free Tai Chi Classes - Stay Centered with Tai Chi At Home

Below is a link to the last of Dr. Paul Lam’s video series called Tai Chi to Improve Immunity and Reduce Stress.
If you follow the link, you will be able to access the entire series. This Tai Chi is relaxing and easy to follow. 
Tai Chi to Improve Immunity and Reduce Stress

Self-Care and Resiliency "We Cannot Escape One Another"

What is giving you comfort, courage, and compassion these days? How are you caring for your well-being and resilience?

Two weeks ago, it became clear to me that my normal spiritual practices were not cutting it. I felt so worn down. I had a longing for more time to be present to the emotional realities all around me. I realized I was compartmentalizing my grief and fear – putting it away in order to stay focused on tasks at hand. While this strategy works in the short term, I’ve learned if I don’t make time to return to the pain I set aside, it finds its way in – generally as exhaustion, short-temperedness, forgetfulness, even depression.

This week marked 50 days that my family and I have been sheltering-in-place with the exception of infrequent trips to the grocery store and walking the dog. The adrenaline of the urgent transitions of the beginning of the pandemic is giving way to the grief over the loss of loved ones, the pain of distance, the fear of what is to come, the anger at the mismanagement of the crisis at the highest levels, and a weariness that comes with understanding we will have to live with social distance and virtual community for a long time.

Remember that you are enough and that rest and joy are essential for resiliency.

If you are weary, prickly, exhausted, angry – you are not alone. This is a time when care and compassion are primary – and that includes offering it to ourselves. As leaders, we too need extra compassion and care. We too need time to do things to nurture and replenish our spirits – even if that means time to do nothing at all. As Maya Angelou writes:

We need joy as we need air.
We need love as we need water.
We need each other as we need the earth we share.

It’s easy to feel anxious and overwhelmed at this time. Remember that you are enough and that rest and joy are essential for resiliency. They are a source of our creativity and compassion. And just as others are in need of compassion, so are you. As staff and lay leaders of communities, making time to tend to your own well-being is necessary so that you have the capacity to be compassionate and caring to others, particularly as others are weary and quick to criticism and sharpness.

Recognizing this need in my own heart, mind and body, I’ve lengthened my time for morning meditation to make more space to feel and to be attentive to all that is in my heart. I’ve pulled out poems that make me smile and remember the beauty and joy in life. And I’ve started listening to more music and singing aloud to my favorites. I’m also trying to teach our dog to dance. It’s not going well, but it is getting me to dance!

In these difficult and painful times, we need joy. Joy is life-saving. Joy helps nurture our resilience. Above all, I pray you are making time to care for your well-being because you are a good gift. You are valuable, needed and loved. Taking care of yourself matters.

Yours in love and care,


P.S. As some states and municipalities consider “re-opening,” the UUA continues to recommend that congregations not gather in person and continue to meet virtually. In addition, the UUA has postponed, canceled or moved to virtual formats all scheduled events through Sept. 1, 2020. The UUA is currently seeking guidance from public health officials about what questions should guide congregation’s risk assessment and readiness plans before beginning any moves to begin gathering in person.

Care for Self: Spiritual Care & Mental Health Resources

  • "Pandemic" (video), a poem by the Rev. Lynn Ungar
  •  "We Cannot Escape One Another,” an exquisite reflection by the Rev. Manish Mishra-Marzetti from the UUA’s Braver/Wiser weekly messages of courage and compassion.
  • Get Yes to Life by Vicktor E. Frankl, a series of lectures on meaning and resilience delivered after Frankl was liberated from Nazi concentration camps.

Mental Health Resources